I am an avid reader. Always have been and always will be. In recent years, I have become obsessed with self help, holistic health and wellness, and personal development books. Admittedly, a sometimes slippery slope to self doubt and overwhelm, but for me sanctuary. They have been a source of ideas, growth, a judgement free zone while I explore myself and who I am. Of all the books I've read, Danielle Laporte's are some of my absolute favourites.
How did I find the beautiful, wonder woman that is Danielle Laporte? Honestly, like many of the great spiritual teachers I have found - by wandering a bookstore. I remember walking up and down the aisles at Chapters a few years ago when I saw the beautiful purple and pink ombre spine of The Desire Map. It had just come out, and it had both a Heather's Pick sticker on it and an employee's recommendation sticker. So you know its going to be a good one. So I grabbed it.
When I went to check out with it, the cashier was so totally excited for me. She couldn't stop gushing about how amazing the book was and how it had changed her life.. woah. I fell deeply in love with the method of the Desire Map, and it has completely transformed how I look at goals and how I want to live in general.
Fast forward a few years to now, and she's written her third book White Hot Truth. And I am going to be honest with you - its fucking amazing. It opened my eyes to a lot of shit I was holding on to, a lot of patterns and controlling that I was doing, specifically in my spiritual self care routines, and created space for a new perspective.
Its juicy, vibrant and just in my opinion a mandatory read. One of my favourite concepts behind the book is this: that us self help junkies, can use our love for self help as a crutch or a way to hide a deep self loathing. NOW I'm not saying that self help is bad. I love self help books and have learned deep and lasting lessons from them. But how often do you think you hide behind all those self help books and the lessons, concepts and ideas? Let me tell you - a lot. Danielle speaks the truth here - theres nothing wrong with bettering ourselves, but what's the deal? WHY are we doing these things? She talks about how if you are only doing these things to prove a point to someone, or make you look more appealing to someone else, or to fit it - you aren't doing it for you. And that's a bunch of bullshit.
Juicy Q: Can you imagine not craving to be different than you are right now?
She also talks about all of the lies we fall for on our self help and self development journey. We tend to take everything as truth don't we? Instead of trusting our intuition and making our own decisions about what teachers are well, teaching us.
What I took from it: listen, feel it out, and trust what your body tells you.
I'm going to share an excerpt from the book:
Wisdom is paradoxical
True wisdom usually holds and transcends opposing points of view. Wisdom knows that there is always an exception to the rule, that there is a time and place, and that case-by-case is divine protocol.
If you can comfortably hold your paradoxes, you’re going to be just ne. Because I’m suggesting that you:
Love yourself rst and foremost and Include the world in your loving (and then get o your ass and be more sel essly engaged)
Raise your standards and Be more flexible and accommodating
Forgive and Don’t forget
Honour spiritual traditions and Be your own guru
Be open-hearted and Have clear, strong boundaries
Be understanding and Don’t take any shit
Have a vision and Go with the ow
Trust and Do the work
Get real and Be idealistic
Be steadfast in your Truth and Make all kinds of exceptions
Have strong preferences and Be easy to please
Lead with your heart and Your head
Own your extraordinariness and Your ordinariness
Because it’s up to you and we’re all in this together.
And hey...we have all the time in the world, but this is urgent.
As a health coach, my favourite chapter was on healing. It's called healing instincts, and its all about creating our own version of medicine and a healing team.
For instance, my healing team consists of ME (the biggest component), my diet, yoga and meditation, essential oils, crystals (which she takes down a notch in the book, but my intuition says YES so I go with them), my chiropractor, massage therapy, and my GP. Its a balanced mix between eastern and western medicine, and for me it works beautifully.
She says: You’re complex. And your support system needs to be as multi-faceted, robust, and weird as you are. TRUTH.
She goes deeper into self love, being spiritually admirable, worthiness, and dives deep into having an open heart. BUT a protected heart. Open heart, big fucking fence. Boundaries are important guys, trust me.
I wish I could just summarize every chapter into a blog post for you guys, but there is just soo much juiciness. So you have to go read for yourself. And then, while you are at it - read her other books too.
IF you do read any of them, let me know. We read this book in my online book club - all the questions are still there if you want in.
Much love + happy reading.